| By Rob Polishook
Credit photo to Rob Polishook

 

It was Tuesday night, the 19th of September in 1973, exactly 44 years ago when I sat in front of the TV and watched Billie Jean King beat Bobby Riggs in a tennis match called the “Battle of the Sexes.”

Fast-forward to 2017, and Billie Jean is walking the red carpet in New York City with actress Emma Stone for the premier of the movie by the same name. The film is about social change, equality and Billie Jean’s life. Clearly, the message is about more than just tennis.

We all know Billie Jean King is heralded for winning 39 Grand Slams (combined singles, doubles and mixed doubles), has a National Tennis Center named after her in Flushing Meadows, founded the Women’s Tennis Association, is a lifelong proponent of gender equality and LGBTQ rights, and so much more. However, her underlying story of vulnerability, personal motivation, and the courage to accomplish what she has is far less known.

At the movie premier, Billie Jean spoke about her unique, purpose-driven reason for persevering beyond all odds. I call this a person’s Big Y(why).

“I realized if I could get good enough, become number one, then maybe I could change the world to make it a better place,” said King. “We could become more inclusive, lift each other up …”

She went on to say that when she was 12-years-old, she had an epiphany while playing in Los Angeles. Everyone was wearing white shorts, white socks, white tops and everyone’s skin color was white.

“I asked myself,” Billie Jean remarked. “Where was everyone else? And that was the moment that changed my entire life. I was going to fight for equal rights, men and women. I dedicated my life to this cause because I thought it was so important.”

With this Big Y of equal rights, Billie Jean King became the quintessential example of someone who is “More Than an Athlete” … an athlete who brings her whole self to the sport. She doesn’t just bring her talent, technique and skills. She brings her spirit, story, soul and self. Billie Jean’s story illustrates how obstacles, fears and myths, whether on or off the court, can get in our way. But whenever athletes break out of slumps, play freely, and reach the next level, it is because they brought their whole selves to the competition. They metaphorically used their “more” as rocket fuel to propel them forward, just like Billie Jean did.

So often in society, we look to accolades, trophies, championships and highlights on ESPN to define an athlete’s worth. Through this narrow lens, we categorize athletes to fit what we imagine a champion to be. Billie Jean King didn’t get caught up in this trap. Her story illustrates what was really at work behind her forehand, backhand and great net game—her courage to stand out and be herself when things got rough. She made hard choices to become an advocate for causes that are sometimes frowned upon.

In the early 1970s, Billie Jean campaigned for equal prize money, which then led to championing the Woman’s Tennis Association (WTA) and the infamous match against Bobby Riggs. She continues to stand up for gender equality, gay rights, and runs a leadership initiative called “Lift. Learn. Lead.” to achieve inclusive leadership. During the post movie Q&A panel, she spoke about the uncertainty of pioneering causes that are not always popular.

“It’s scary, I’m scared a lot, it’s about courage, just do it, try your best. It’s good enough,” King said. “And please don’t judge yourself on how well you do. Just because you’re highly skilled in something doesn’t mean you’re a good person. How are you as a human being? That’s number one. How am I as a person? Am I doing the right thing every day? Am I taking care of myself so I can take care of others?”

This great message directly relates to the uncertainty athletes face on and off the court. So often when I work with an athlete, they will say, “If I was only confident, I would play this way or win that way!”

Shonda Rhimes, famous television producer, personally invited by Billie Jean, spoke to that when she added an important note about confidence.

“It’s not confidence, it’s courage,” said Rhimes. “You don’t have to be confident and know you can do something, you just have to be courageous enough to try to do it. We all think we already have to be brave, to already know, be that person that thinks they are a bad-ass. We don’t have to be that person, we just have to be courageous enough to take a step and try.”

Many wonder how Billie Jean had the fortitude to fight for social causes while playing professional tennis. From my lens, she recognized she was more than an athlete and understood that Big Y that she identified as a 12-year-old was her real motivation to achieve. Billie Jean is truly “More Than an Athlete,” an example of bringing who you are to what you do. She is an inspiration to us all.

Rob Polishook

Rob Polishook, MA, CPC is the founder and director of Inside the Zone Sports Performance Group. As a mental training coach, he works with athletes and teams at the middle school, high school, national, collegiate and professional levels. His work focuses on helping athletes and teams gain the mental edge, often the difference between winning and losing. Rob has spoken to athletes, coaches, parents both nationally at USTA, USPTA, ITA conferences, and has conducted international workshops and has worked with top-ranked juniors in India, Israel, Switzerland and the Czech Republic. He was awarded the 2008 USPTA-Eastern Division High School Coach of the Year Award. He may be reached by phone at (973) 723-0314, e-mail rob@insidethezone.com, or visit www.insidethezone.com.