P.I.N.R.W.C.I.O.
I was stringing a tennis racquet for one of my clients when I noticed the letters “P.I.N.R.W.C.I.O.” handwritten on the white grip of the racquet. I instantly knew it was a reminder of some sorts, and was curious to find out what it stood for.
“Pressure Is Not Real, We Create It Ourselves,” Tim Sr. responded to my inquiry. “I try to remind myself of that when I play competitively,” he added.
I admit to being somewhat of a stickler when it comes to language. I also enjoy the opportunity to discuss competition and the behavioral effects of competition on us, so I countered by asking, “But Tim, if we create something, doesn’t that make it real by definition?”
An interesting discussion followed. I knew that he was on the right path, but sometimes a devil’s advocate can help you along with some interesting counter questions. Intellectually, we know that certain things are not “real,” but they certainly feel real! Have you ever watched a horror movie late at night by yourself? Everyone knows the difference between reality and the TV screen, yet surely you can relate to the person switching all the lights on after the movie, looking under their bed for monsters, or any other ritual to create a sense of “safety” before going to sleep.
In a tennis match, you are never really fighting for your life, but it can certainly feel that way! The emotions we experience in competition are real, but have to be placed in perspective. Preparation goes a long way in making sure that our behavior results in winning tennis.
My advice to Tim therefore:
â–ºHave a little plan for pressure situations
â–ºWelcome pressure situations as opportunities to learn
â–ºAnalyze your reactions to pressure with compassion and adjust the plan accordingly
